It’s not a matter of understanding, it’s a matter of forgiving

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends. (Proverbs 17:9 NLT)

 Forgiving is one of the most difficult things for a person to do. But whenever we give our hurts to God and tell Him, “Jesus, take this. I don’t want it anymore. I’m tired of it,” He covers the wounds, hurts, and pain with His love and makes us whole again.
 God understands every situation and the heart of every person. We may never understand why someone acted a certain way or why they did whatever it was they did to us, but it’s not a matter of understanding, it’s a matter of forgiving.
 Yet forgiving is often difficult; it doesn’t come naturally. That’s why God says we need His help to do it. We receive the love and grace to forgive from Him.
 Bad things happen to everyone. It’s how we handle troubles, problems, hurts, and disappointments that counts. When we allow ourselves to become resentful over things that hurt us, resentfulness will lead to bitterness. And bitterness, if it is allowed to follow its course, will weaken us spiritually.
 Forgive, let go, forsake bitterness, and move forward. As you do, He can give you a more loving, compassionate, and giving heart; He can help you to become a stronger, better person and a pillar that others can lean on. In other words, He will make you more like Him! —Peter Amsterdam [1]

Where mercy, love, and pity dwell, there God is dwelling too. —William Blake (1757–1827)

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